I am concluding my experiment on Grindr. For my regular readers, you already know that I have been trying to figure out what attracts the men who use Grindr. The methodology that I used was not scientific. “Attraction” is measured by the number of messages I get depending on the picture that I used in my profile.
The last picture that I used is my picture with the Giraffe from Calauit:
This picture yielded good results. It was actually as popular as this picture with Char Siew my Shar Pei:
For both pictures, I get opening messages from men indicating that they find either the Giraffe or Char Siew cute. They then proceed to ask how I am doing and then go back to talking about the picture and the animals in them. After a number of exchanges – that’s when they focus the conversation on me. They ask more questions about me and make an assumption that I love animals ( which is true ).
Why these pictures work:
1. The animals are neutral topics. Men don’t like being rejected and ignored. They seem to know that if they talk about the animals first – they will get attention.
2. These pictures provide a glimpse about my personality. It starts the conversation. It’s a lot harder to approach a man ( even online ) when you don’t really know anything about them.
3. The picture is not intimidating. Depending on whether a person is better looking or not – they can be intimidated by a very good looking face picture. I do get asked for a clearer face picture after a few exchanges – I’m happy that they continue with the conversation even when they see the face picture.
I am finished with my experiment. It was fun to meet new friends while doing it. For now – I will stick with the Giraffe picture.